Questions for Wife and Husband
15 questions you both answer, about the marriage rather than about each other.
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How do we actually divide the work at home?
One phone between the two of you — the card says whose turn it is.
About Questions for Wife and Husband
Questions for wife and husband that are worth the evening ask about the marriage rather than about the two people in it. These 15 are answered by both of you — how you divide things, how you decide things, what each of you has quietly been carrying.
Sample questions to get you started
- 1How do we actually divide the work at home?
- 2Is that division fair, honestly?
- 3How do decisions get made between us?
- 4How do we handle it when one of us is struggling?
- 5What do our arguments tend to be about underneath?
- 6What has got better in the last few years?
- 7What has quietly got worse?
- 8What do we avoid talking about?
- 9How do we feel about the amount of time we spend together?
- 10How do we each feel about money at the moment?
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- 11What do we do well that we should protect?
- 12What is one of us carrying that the other has not noticed?
- 13What would make us feel more like a team?
- 14What do we want the next year to be about?
- 15What is one thing each of us will change?
Tap the game above to play through all prompts.
How to play Questions for Wife and Husband
- Both answer every card, out loud.
- Answer about the marriage, not about your spouse.
- Ban "you always" and "you never" for the duration.
- Finish by each naming one thing you will do differently.
Why couples love this game
Married couples review the house, the money and the calendar and never review the marriage. Doing it on purpose, occasionally, catches the small stuff while it is still small, which is the only genuinely effective form of maintenance available.
Tips to make it more fun
- Use examples rather than adjectives.
- Half an hour, no longer.
- Do it during a good week, not a bad one.
- One change each, not a list.
Frequently asked questions
What are good questions for a married couple to ask each other?
Ones about the marriage rather than about each other — how work is divided, how decisions get made, what never gets discussed. Both partners answering every card is what makes it a review rather than an interrogation.
How long should this take?
About half an hour. Longer and it stops being a check-in and starts being a summit.
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