This or That: Couple Edition
100 quick-fire picks. No thinking, no explaining — just pick and keep moving.
100 questions · Free
Which one?
One phone between the two of you — the card says whose turn it is.
About This or That: Couple Edition
This or that for couples is the fastest game in the library — one card, two options, answer in under two seconds. Where Would You Rather makes you agonise, This or That is designed to be answered on instinct, which is exactly why it catches you out. Play thirty cards at speed and you will have a fairly accurate map of where your tastes overlap and where you have been quietly compromising for years.
Sample questions to get you started
- 1Coffee or Tea
- 2Beach holiday or City break
- 3Early bird or Night owl
- 4Text or Call
- 5Big party or Small dinner
- 6Sweet or Savoury
- 7Plan everything or Wing it
- 8Window seat or Aisle seat
- 9Cook at home or Order in
- 10Mountains or Ocean
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- 11Dogs or Cats
- 12Comedy or Thriller
- 13Save it or Spend it
- 14Summer or Winter
- 15Talk it out now or Sleep on it
- 16Front row or Back row
- 17Surprise party or No fuss at all
- 18Books or Podcasts
- 19Shower in the morning or Shower at night
- 20Road trip or Flight
- 21Loud music or Quiet drive
- 22Same order every time or Something new every time
- 23Handwritten card or Thoughtful gift
- 24Netflix in bed or Cinema out
- 25Sunrise or Sunset
- 26Board games or Video games
- 27Hotel or Airbnb
- 28Wine or Beer
- 29Rent forever or Buy and be stuck
- 30Long lie-in or Long walk
- 31Fix it yourself or Pay someone
- 32Talk during the film or Absolute silence
- 33Birthday dinner or Birthday trip
- 34Group holiday or Just us
- 35Spontaneous kiss or Long hug
- 36Ask for directions or Figure it out
- 37Christmas at home or Christmas away
- 38Text back instantly or Text back thoughtfully
- 39One big splurge or Lots of small treats
- 40Camping or Five-star
- 41Playlist or Radio
- 42Sit inside or Sit outside
- 43Say it or Write it
- 44Breakfast in bed or Brunch out
- 45Keep the light on or Total darkness
- 46Tidy as you go or Big clean at the end
- 47Arrive two hours early or Arrive just in time
- 48Salty snacks or Chocolate
- 49Dance badly or Sit it out
- 50Take the photo or Be in the photo
- 51Small talk or Comfortable silence
- 52New restaurant or Old favourite
- 53Do it now or Do it properly later
- 54Big city or Small town
- 55Give advice or Just listen
- 56Same films twice or Never rewatch anything
- 57Long shower or Long bath
- 58Cash or Card
- 59Get up early on holiday or Sleep through the morning
- 60Meet the friends or Meet the family
- 61Cook together or One cooks, one washes up
- 62Say sorry first or Wait it out
- 63Surprise visit or Plenty of warning
- 64Sit at the bar or Get a table
- 65Concert or Festival
- 66Sparkling or Still
- 67Read the reviews or Just go
- 68Matching outfits once or Never, under any circumstance
- 69Museum or Market
- 70Big family Christmas or Two people and a takeaway
- 71Buy the round or Split the bill
- 72Keep the receipt or Throw it out
- 73Take the stairs or Take the lift
- 74Long engagement or Short one
- 75Talk about money or Talk about anything else
- 76Reply to the group chat or Mute it
- 77Aisle-side of the bed or Wall-side of the bed
- 78Fresh sheets or Fresh towels
- 79Hot weather or Snow
- 80Drive or Be driven
- 81One perfect day or Three good ones
- 82Give the toast or Hide at the back
- 83Overpack or Underpack
- 84Watch the sport or Play the sport
- 85Home cooked birthday cake or Bakery cake
- 86Answer the phone or Let it ring
- 87Same haircut forever or Change it constantly
- 88Pets in the bed or Pets off the bed
- 89Say I love you first or Wait to hear it
- 90Big gestures or Small daily ones
- 91Take the day off or Save the holiday
- 92Watch it live or Wait for the box set
- 93Sit in the sun or Find the shade
- 94Deep conversation at 2am or Sleep at a sensible hour
- 95Do the laundry or Do the dishes
- 96Send a voice note or Send a paragraph
- 97New Year's Eve out or New Year's Eve in
- 98Ask for help or Struggle on
- 99One long holiday or Four short ones
- 100Start again from the beginning or Keep everything exactly as it is
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How to play This or That: Couple Edition
- Hold one phone between you and read each card out loud.
- Answer at the same time, within two seconds. Hesitating counts as a loss.
- Do not explain your answer unless you disagree — then you get one sentence.
- Play in bursts of twenty cards rather than trying to do all hundred at once.
- Count the matches at the end if you want a compatibility score to argue about.
Why couples love this game
Speed is the whole mechanic. When you have two seconds to answer you give the true answer instead of the diplomatic one, and the diplomatic answer is what usually gets said in a relationship. Couples report the same thing after playing: the surprises are never the big categories, they are things like coffee order and holiday pace — the small preferences that quietly shape every weekend you spend together.
Tips to make it more fun
- Set an actual timer. The game is much better fast than thoughtful.
- Play it as a warm-up before a longer question game — it loosens everyone up.
- Whoever hesitates has to explain themselves. That is where the funny answers come from.
- It works brilliantly over a video call because the answers are one word.
- Note down the three you disagreed most strongly about and come back to them over dinner.
Frequently asked questions
How do you play this or that with your partner?
Read each card out loud and both answer within about two seconds. The speed is the point — it stops you giving the polite answer. Count your matches at the end for a rough compatibility score.
What is the difference between This or That and Would You Rather?
This or That is about preference and speed: coffee or tea, beach or city. Would You Rather is about trade-offs you have to think about. Play This or That when you want something quick and funny, and Would You Rather when you want an argument.
How many this or that questions are there?
100 on this page, free, with no sign-up. Shuffle them and the order changes every time you play.
Is this a good game for long distance couples?
It is one of the best, because every answer is one or two words. Open the same page on both phones during a video call and answer at the same time.
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