Communication Games for Couples
15 exercises that change how you talk, not what you talk about.
15 questions · Free
Five minutes where one speaks and the other cannot interrupt at all.
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About Communication Games for Couples
Communication games for couples are not conversation prompts. Each of these 15 is a constraint on how you talk — only questions, no interrupting, repeat back before replying — and the constraint is the entire exercise. Some of them are genuinely difficult.
Sample questions to get you started
- 1Five minutes where one speaks and the other cannot interrupt at all.
- 2Repeat back what your partner said before you respond, every time, for ten minutes.
- 3Ten minutes of conversation using only questions.
- 4Each state a complaint using only "I feel" and no "you always".
- 5Take a disagreement and each argue the other's side.
- 6Five minutes where the listener may only ask clarifying questions.
- 7Describe a recent argument from your partner's point of view.
- 8Each name what you actually wanted in that argument, not what you said.
- 9Ask for something you need, plainly, with no softening.
- 10Practise saying no to something without explaining yourself.
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- 11Each say one thing you have misunderstood about the other.
- 12Have a conversation where neither of you may give advice.
- 13Each describe how you know when the other is upset.
- 14Agree a signal for "I need to pause this" and practise using it.
- 15Afterwards: which of these was hardest, and why?
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How to play Communication Games for Couples
- Pick one exercise and do it properly for the stated time.
- Use a low-stakes topic the first few times.
- The constraint is the exercise — breaking it means starting again.
- Afterwards, talk about how it felt rather than what was said.
Why couples love this game
Most couples do not have a topic problem, they have a mechanics problem: interrupting, defending, answering the accusation rather than the question. Practising the mechanics on something low-stakes makes them available when it matters.
Tips to make it more fun
- Practise on something trivial before you use these on something real.
- Repeating back before replying is the single most useful one here.
- Two exercises per session is plenty.
- If one of these feels impossible, that is worth noticing.
Frequently asked questions
What are communication exercises for couples?
Constraints on how you talk rather than prompts about what to talk about — no interrupting, repeating back before replying, questions only. The constraint is the exercise.
Which one should we start with?
Repeating back what your partner said before responding. It is the most useful and the most uncomfortable, which is usually a good sign.
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