Questions Before Moving In Together
15 questions worth answering before the lease is signed.
15 questions · Free
Who pays what, exactly, and what happens if incomes change?
One phone between the two of you — the card says whose turn it is.
About Questions Before Moving In Together
Questions before moving in together are the unglamorous ones: who pays what, how tidy is tidy, how often can other people stay. Couples usually discover their answers differ about six weeks in. These 15 move that discovery to before the lease is signed.
Sample questions to get you started
- 1Who pays what, exactly, and what happens if incomes change?
- 2How do we split things that only one of us uses?
- 3What counts as a big purchase that needs discussing?
- 4How tidy does the shared space need to be, specifically?
- 5Who does which chores, and how do we handle it when someone does not?
- 6How much alone time does each of us need at home?
- 7How do we signal that we need space without it being an insult?
- 8How often can friends or family stay, and for how long?
- 9How do we handle it when one of us wants to be social and the other does not?
- 10What are the rules about noise, screens and bedtimes?
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- 11Whose furniture and whose taste wins where they clash?
- 12How do we handle food — shared, separate, or a mix?
- 13What happens if one of us wants to move out or move on?
- 14What is each of us most worried about?
- 15What is the one thing you would find hardest to live with?
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How to play Questions Before Moving In Together
- Both answer every question with specifics, not principles.
- Write down anything you disagree on.
- Come back to the disagreements a week later.
- Agree the money questions in actual numbers.
Why couples love this game
Living together fails on logistics far more often than on feelings. Almost every early argument in a shared flat is about an assumption neither person stated, and stating them in advance takes about forty minutes.
Tips to make it more fun
- Numbers, not principles. "We'll split it fairly" is not an answer.
- The tidiness question causes more arguments than the money one.
- Agree the guest rules before anyone's friend needs a sofa.
- Revisit after three months of actually living together.
Frequently asked questions
What should you discuss before moving in together?
Money, chores, space, guests and noise, all in specifics rather than principles. Almost every early argument in a shared flat is about an assumption neither person stated.
Is it a bad sign if we disagree?
No — finding a disagreement before the lease is the entire point. Write it down and come back to it in a week rather than resolving it on the spot.
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