Spicy Question Game
15 questions and no instructions. Talking only.
15 questions · Free
How easy do you find it to tell me what you want, honestly?
One phone between the two of you — the card says whose turn it is.
This game is 18+. The prompts on this page are written for consenting adults. Confirm you are over 18 to keep playing.
About Spicy Question Game
This is the talking deck. Fifteen questions, no instructions, nothing to do — just the conversation most couples have never actually had in plain words. It works on a normal evening, fully clothed, and it makes everything else considerably easier.
Sample questions to get you started
- 1How easy do you find it to tell me what you want, honestly?
- 2What is something I do that you would like more of?
- 3What is something you enjoy that you assume I would not?
- 4How do you prefer to be asked?
- 5What makes you feel confident?
- 6What makes you feel self-conscious, and what helps?
- 7What stops you bringing something up — worry about my reaction, or something else?
- 8What is something you tried once and would not repeat?
- 9What do you think about that you have never said?
- 10How important is planning versus spontaneity for you?
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- 11How would you want me to react if you said no to something?
- 12What is your honest answer on frequency?
- 13What would make this conversation easier to have more often?
- 14What would make an ordinary evening better?
- 15What is one thing you would like to change about how we talk about this?
Tap the game above to play through all prompts.
How to play Spicy Question Game
- Answer every question yourself before asking your partner to.
- One follow-up per card, and make it a real one.
- "Not tonight" is a complete answer and does not need a reason.
- Do this with clothes on, on an ordinary evening.
Why couples love this game
Almost every complaint in this area is really a communication problem wearing a different hat. Couples guess at what the other wants for years because there is no comfortable moment to ask, and a list of questions removes the need for anyone to raise it first.
Tips to make it more fun
- Do it on a normal evening rather than in the moment. It works much better.
- "I have never thought about that" is a complete answer.
- Write down the two or three things you both agreed on.
- Do not treat any answer as a request unless it is stated as one.
Frequently asked questions
What are good spicy questions for couples?
Ones that ask about preference and comfort rather than for a confession. "When do you feel most wanted?" gets somewhere useful; a demand for a fantasy usually does not.
When should we play this?
On an ordinary evening with clothes on. It is a conversation deck, and it makes everything else easier precisely because it is not happening in the moment.
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