The Intimacy Deck
15 cards that alternate between a question and something to do.
15 questions · Free
When did you last feel completely at ease with me?
One phone between the two of you — the card says whose turn it is.
This game is 18+. The prompts on this page are written for consenting adults. Confirm you are over 18 to keep playing.
About The Intimacy Deck
The intimacy deck alternates: a question, then something to do, then another question. Fifteen cards, deliberately slow, and everything on it can be done without either of you taking anything off.
Sample questions to get you started
- 1When did you last feel completely at ease with me?
- 2Two minutes of eye contact, no talking.
- 3What do you find most attractive about me right now?
- 4Three minutes of hand-holding, no conversation.
- 5What is something you have wanted me to notice?
- 6Take turns describing what you see in the other's face.
- 7What do you need more of from me at the moment?
- 8Three minutes of a shoulder and neck massage, no talking.
- 9What is a memory of us you think about most?
- 10Sit close and breathe in time for two minutes.
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- 11What do you find hardest to say to me?
- 12Say it now, quietly.
- 13What would make you feel closest to me tonight?
- 14Do that, for as long as you both want.
- 15Afterwards: what was the best card on this list?
Tap the game above to play through all prompts.
How to play The Intimacy Deck
- Work through the cards in order.
- Set a timer for anything with a duration.
- Any card can be passed on without a reason.
- Nothing here needs to escalate. Let it if you both want to.
Why couples love this game
Alternating between talking and touching keeps both people present in a way that either one alone does not. It is also the format most couples find easiest to start, because half the cards are just a conversation.
Tips to make it more fun
- Use a real timer. The durations matter.
- The question cards are not filler — answer them properly.
- Phones away apart from the one running the deck.
- Stop while you both still want more.
Frequently asked questions
What is an intimacy deck?
A set of cards that alternates between a question and a quiet exercise. Half of it is conversation, which makes it the easiest deck in this section to start.
Does anything on this page require nudity?
No. Everything here can be done fully clothed, and whether it goes further is left entirely to the two of you.
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