Foreplay Games
30 prompts about slowing down, in a game that will not let you rush.
30 questions · Free
Sit facing each other and hold eye contact for one full minute. Nothing else.
One phone between the two of you — the card says whose turn it is.
This game is 18+. The prompts on this page are written for consenting adults. Confirm you are over 18 to keep playing.
About Foreplay Games
Foreplay games work best with a constraint, and this deck has one: nothing escalates until the card says it can. Each of the 30 prompts is a small, timed instruction — thirty seconds of this, three minutes of that, one whispered question — and the rule is that you do not skip ahead. It is a game about pace, which is the thing most couples say they have lost and few do anything about.
Sample questions to get you started
- 1Sit facing each other and hold eye contact for one full minute. Nothing else.
- 2Take turns saying one thing you find attractive about the other. Three each.
- 3Thirty seconds of kissing. Then stop completely for thirty seconds.
- 4Describe the first time you were attracted to me, in detail.
- 5Two minutes of shoulders and neck only.
- 6Ask for one thing you want, in plain words.
- 7One minute of kissing anywhere except the mouth.
- 8Say what you were hoping would happen tonight.
- 9Three minutes of a proper back massage. No talking.
- 10Take turns describing what you like being done, one sentence each.
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- 11Thirty seconds of hands only.
- 12Whisper something you have never told me.
- 13Take one item of clothing off the other, slowly.
- 14Two minutes where only one of you is allowed to move.
- 15Swap — two minutes where only the other one is allowed to move.
- 16Say one thing you want to try that you have never asked for.
- 17One minute of nothing but breathing, close, no touching.
- 18Kiss somewhere you have not kissed in a long time.
- 19Give an instruction and have it followed exactly.
- 20Take the instruction back and have it done differently.
- 21Two minutes of anything, but neither of you may speak.
- 22Two minutes of anything, but you have to say everything you want out loud.
- 23Ask a question you would normally be embarrassed to ask.
- 24Answer it honestly.
- 25Thirty seconds where you are only allowed to hover, not touch.
- 26One thing each of you has been thinking about all evening — say it now.
- 27Three minutes led entirely by one of you.
- 28Three minutes led entirely by the other.
- 29Decide together what happens next, out loud, in plain words.
- 30Ignore the last card and do whatever you were both already thinking.
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How to play Foreplay Games
- Both of you have to want to play. Do not talk anyone into this.
- Work through the cards in order and set a timer for anything with a duration.
- Nothing escalates beyond what the current card says. That is the only rule.
- Anyone can pass on any card, no reason required.
- Stop when you want to — finishing the deck is not the objective.
Why couples love this game
The complaint is almost never about desire; it is about speed. Once a couple has been together a while, everything becomes efficient, and efficiency is the enemy here. A deck that imposes a timer and forbids escalation does what neither of you will do voluntarily, which is slow the whole thing down until it becomes interesting again.
Tips to make it more fun
- Actually set the timer. Guessing thirty seconds means twelve seconds.
- Phones face-down apart from the one running the deck.
- Talking counts. Several of these cards are entirely conversation.
- If a card feels silly, say so and laugh — that is fine and it does not break anything.
- The rule about not escalating is the whole game. Keeping it is what makes it work.
Frequently asked questions
What are good foreplay games for couples?
Ones with a timer and a rule against escalating. The common complaint is pace rather than desire, and a deck that forces you to stay on one thing for two minutes fixes that in a way good intentions do not.
Do we have to do the cards in order?
It works much better in order, because the deck is built to slow down and then build. Skipping ahead turns it back into the thing you were trying to change.
What if one of us wants to stop?
Then you stop. Any card can be passed on without a reason, and finishing the deck is explicitly not the goal.
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