Intimate Questions
15 questions about closeness rather than logistics.
15 questions · Free
When do you feel closest to me?
One phone between the two of you — the card says whose turn it is.
This game is 18+. The prompts on this page are written for consenting adults. Confirm you are over 18 to keep playing.
About Intimate Questions
Intimate questions are not the same as explicit ones. These 15 are about closeness — when you feel wanted, what makes you feel safe, what you find hardest to ask for — and they are the softest deck in this section by some distance.
Sample questions to get you started
- 1When do you feel closest to me?
- 2What makes you feel safe with me?
- 3What is the most vulnerable you have ever felt with me?
- 4What do you find hardest to ask for?
- 5When did you last feel completely wanted?
- 6What is something about me you find beautiful that is not physical?
- 7What do you need after we have been distant?
- 8What is a memory of us you return to?
- 9What do you wish I understood about how you feel?
- 10What is something you have never told me because it felt too much?
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- 11How do you want to be held when you are upset?
- 12What is the kindest thing I have done for you?
- 13What do you want me to know about how I make you feel?
- 14What would make you feel closer to me this month?
- 15What do you want to say that you have been holding onto?
Tap the game above to play through all prompts.
How to play Intimate Questions
- Late evening, low light, one phone.
- Both answer every card, and whoever asks answers second.
- Do not fill the silence after an answer.
- Five cards is a full session.
Why couples love this game
Physical closeness and emotional closeness are not separable in a long relationship, and the second one is what usually needs attention. These questions work on that directly, which tends to change the first one as a side effect.
Tips to make it more fun
- This is a deck to dip into, not to finish.
- Quiet voices change the answers. It is worth doing.
- Do not turn an answer into a request in the same evening.
- It works particularly well at the end of a good day.
Frequently asked questions
What are intimate questions for couples?
Questions about closeness rather than about sex — when you feel wanted, what makes you feel safe, what is hardest to ask for. They are softer than the rest of this section and often more useful.
How many should we do?
Five is a full session. This is a deck to dip into at the end of an evening, not to work through.
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