Pillow Talk Questions
15 questions for the half hour before sleep, when people say the real things.
15 questions · Free
What are you thinking about right now?
One phone between the two of you — the card says whose turn it is.
About Pillow Talk Questions
Pillow talk questions work because of when they are asked. In the dark, with no eye contact and nowhere else to be, people say things they would not say across a kitchen table. These 15 are written for exactly that half hour before sleep.
Sample questions to get you started
- 1What are you thinking about right now?
- 2What was the best moment of today?
- 3What is something you have not told me about this week?
- 4What are you worried about that you have not mentioned?
- 5When did you last feel really happy?
- 6What do you think about when you cannot sleep?
- 7What is something you want that you have never said out loud?
- 8What do you miss?
- 9What are you grateful for tonight?
- 10What do you hope tomorrow is like?
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- 11What is something you have been meaning to say to me?
- 12What would you do with a completely free day, no obligations?
- 13What do you love about this, right now?
- 14What is something you would want me to know if I forgot everything tomorrow?
- 15What do you want to dream about?
Tap the game above to play through all prompts.
How to play Pillow Talk Questions
- Lights off or very low. One phone, brightness down.
- Whoever is more awake reads. The other answers first.
- Keep your voices quiet. It changes the answers.
- Three or four cards is a whole session.
Why couples love this game
Reduced eye contact and low stakes make disclosure easier — it is why difficult conversations go better in cars and at night. The setting is doing most of the work; the questions just have to be worth answering.
Tips to make it more fun
- Do not do more than five. This is not a deck to binge.
- Silence after an answer is fine. Do not fill it.
- If you fall asleep halfway through, that is a successful evening.
- Never start an argument in this deck. Save it for daylight.
Frequently asked questions
What is pillow talk?
The quiet conversation in the half hour before sleep. It is where couples say things they would not say in daylight — less eye contact, lower stakes, nowhere else to be.
How many pillow talk questions should we do?
Three or four. This is a deck to dip into rather than work through, and falling asleep partway is a good outcome rather than a failure.
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