Dirty This or That
30 either-or cards, answered fast. The hesitation is the interesting part.
30 questions · Free
Which one?
One phone between the two of you — the card says whose turn it is.
This game is 18+. The prompts on this page are written for consenting adults. Confirm you are over 18 to keep playing.
About Dirty This or That
Dirty games for couples usually mean dares, which only works if you are both already in the mood. This one is a preference game instead: 30 either-or cards you both answer at the same time, quickly, with no explanation required. It works as a conversation, it works as a warm-up, and it tells you more in ten minutes than an hour of hinting would.
Sample questions to get you started
- 1Lights on or Lights off
- 2Planned or Spontaneous
- 3Morning or Night
- 4Slow or Fast
- 5Talking or Silence
- 6Being asked or Being surprised
- 7Leading or Following
- 8Music on or No music
- 9Somewhere new or Somewhere familiar
- 10Eye contact or Eyes closed
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- 11Teasing or Straight to it
- 12Told what to do or Deciding yourself
- 13A whole evening or Twenty stolen minutes
- 14Whispering or Out loud
- 15Same routine, done well or Something you have never tried
- 16Hotel or Home
- 17Getting ready together or Arriving already in the mood
- 18A message during the day or No warning at all
- 19Compliments or Instructions
- 20Under the covers or On top
- 21Dressed up or Straight out of the shower
- 22Long build-up or No build-up
- 23Being watched or Absolute privacy
- 24A drink first or Completely sober
- 25Asking for it or Being asked for it
- 26Familiar and reliable or Risky and uncertain
- 27Making the plan or Being told the plan
- 28Once, properly or Twice, quickly
- 29Staying up too late or Getting up early
- 30Talking about it now or Doing something about it now
Tap the game above to play through all prompts.
How to play Dirty This or That
- Both of you have to want to play. Same rule as everything else in this section.
- Read the card and both answer at the same time, out loud.
- No explaining unless you want to. Matching answers are worth a note.
- Any card can be passed on without a reason.
- Ten minutes is plenty — this is a warm-up, not an evening.
Why couples love this game
Preferences are the hardest thing for couples to talk about directly, because stating one out loud feels like making a request. A forced choice between two options removes that — you are not asking for anything, you are just picking. Answering simultaneously means neither of you is following the other's lead.
Tips to make it more fun
- Answer fast. Deliberating turns it into a negotiation.
- Keep a mental note of every card you both picked the same option on.
- Come back to those matches later, when the deck is closed.
- If a card produces a real conversation, stop playing and have it.
- The talking deck — Sex Games for Couples — is the natural follow-up.
Frequently asked questions
How do you play dirty this or that?
Read the card and both answer at the same time, quickly. Matching answers are worth remembering; differences are worth a conversation once the deck is closed. No explanation is required for any card.
Is this game explicit?
It is 18+ but it is preferences rather than descriptions — every card is two options and a choice. It works as a way into a conversation rather than as the conversation itself.
How long does it take?
About ten minutes for all thirty. It is designed as a warm-up rather than a whole evening.
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