The Relationship Quiz

About The Relationship Quiz

The relationship quiz asks about the relationship rather than about either of you. You both answer separately — how often you argue, who does more, how happy you would say things are — and then compare. Agreement is reassuring. Disagreement is more useful.

Sample questions to get you started

1. 1How often do we argue, honestly?
2. 2Who does more around the house?
3. 3Who apologises first, usually?
4. 4How happy would you say we are, out of ten?
5. 5How much time do we spend together in a normal week?
6. 6Is that enough, too much, or about right?
7. 7Who makes more of the decisions?
8. 8How well do we handle money together?
9. 9How supported do you feel, out of ten?
10. 10How supported do you think I feel?

Tap the game above to play through all prompts.

How to play The Relationship Quiz

1. Both answer all 15 questions privately, in writing.
2. Compare one at a time.
3. Where you disagree, both explain before moving on.
4. Pick the biggest gap and talk about it properly at the end.

Why couples love this game

Two people in the same relationship frequently have quite different accounts of it, and neither is lying. Comparing those accounts side by side is more informative than any single person's opinion, and it usually explains at least one recurring argument.

Tips to make it more fun

• Answer honestly rather than generously.
• Do not defend your answer immediately — hear theirs first.
• The biggest gap is the only one worth a real conversation tonight.
• Retake it in six months.

Frequently asked questions