Questions for Your Partner
15 questions for whatever stage you happen to be at.
15 questions · Free
What do you need more of at the moment?
One phone between the two of you — the card says whose turn it is.
About Questions for Your Partner
Questions for your partner that work at six months and at sixteen years are harder to write than they look, because most decks assume a stage. These 15 do not: none of them require shared history, and none of them are too gentle for a long relationship.
Sample questions to get you started
- 1What do you need more of at the moment?
- 2What has been on your mind this week?
- 3What are you looking forward to?
- 4What are you dreading?
- 5What do you think I have not noticed lately?
- 6What is something you are proud of right now?
- 7What is draining you at the moment?
- 8What would make this month better?
- 9What do you want to do that we keep postponing?
- 10What do you find hardest about your life right now?
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- 11What is something you want to change about your routine?
- 12How do you feel about where we are?
- 13What do you want from me this week, specifically?
- 14What is something you have wanted to say?
- 15What would you like me to ask you more often?
Tap the game above to play through all prompts.
How to play Questions for Your Partner
- Answer for this week specifically, not for how you generally are.
- Answer as you are now rather than as you generally are.
- If an answer has changed since last time, say so out loud.
- Twenty minutes covers the deck comfortably.
Why couples love this game
The useful questions are about the present rather than the past. What someone needs this month, what they are avoiding, what they want more of — those apply regardless of how long you have been together, and the answers change often enough to be worth asking repeatedly.
Tips to make it more fun
- Ask about the present. "At the moment" is doing the work in most of these.
- Repeat the deck every few months — the answers move.
- Do not treat an answer as permanent.
- Note anything that surprises you and revisit it.
Frequently asked questions
What questions should I ask my partner?
Ones about the present rather than the past. What someone needs this month changes often enough to be worth asking repeatedly, whereas their childhood does not.
How often should we do this?
Every few months. The whole value is in catching changes while they are still small, which does not need doing weekly.
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