Pet Peeve or Dealbreaker
15 behaviours. Decide which are annoying and which would actually end it.
15 questions · Free
Never says sorry first
Pet peeve, or dealbreaker?
One phone between the two of you — the card says whose turn it is.
About Pet Peeve or Dealbreaker
Pet peeve or dealbreaker asks you to sort 15 behaviours into two piles: things that are irritating and things that would actually end a relationship. The interesting part is that most couples have never compared these lists, and they are rarely as similar as either person assumes.
Sample questions to get you started
- 1Never says sorry first
- 2Lies about small things constantly
- 3Is rude to waiters and staff
- 4Never wants to see your family
- 5Hides how much they spend
- 6Talks about your relationship to their friends in detail
- 7Is chronically late to everything
- 8Never initiates anything
- 9Goes silent for days after an argument
- 10Flirts with other people in front of you
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- 11Refuses to discuss anything difficult
- 12Puts their friends before you every time
- 13Never says thank you for anything
- 14Makes jokes at your expense in public
- 15Would not support you through something serious
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How to play Pet Peeve or Dealbreaker
- Read the behaviour and both answer at the same time.
- Peeve means irritating; dealbreaker means it would end things.
- Where you disagree, explain the reasoning before moving on.
- Do not treat any answer as a hypothetical accusation.
Why couples love this game
Everyone has a private list of unforgivable things and almost nobody has said it out loud. Comparing them is genuinely useful — not because you plan to test any of it, but because knowing where your partner's line sits changes how you behave near it.
Tips to make it more fun
- Answer honestly rather than reasonably. The reasonable answer is useless.
- The disagreements are the point of the exercise.
- Avoid this deck during a bad week.
- Anything one of you calls a dealbreaker deserves a proper conversation later.
Frequently asked questions
How do you play pet peeve or dealbreaker?
Read each behaviour and both decide at the same time whether it is merely irritating or would actually end the relationship. Where you disagree, explain the reasoning — that is where the value is.
Is this game risky to play?
Only if you play it during a bad week or treat the cards as accusations. On a neutral evening it is one of the more useful decks here, because knowing where your partner's line sits changes how you behave near it.
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