The 100 Question Game for Couples
All 100 questions, in an order that actually builds. Start at one, stop whenever.
101 questions · Free
What is the first thing you do when you wake up?
One phone between the two of you — the card says whose turn it is.
About The 100 Question Game for Couples
The 100 question game for couples is the long version — not a party game, a project. Most lists of a hundred questions are a hundred random questions; this one is ordered, opening with things you could answer on a bus and closing with things you would only say to one person. Play ten a night for ten nights, or the whole thing on a long journey. Every question is listed on this page, so you can read ahead if you want to.
Sample questions to get you started
- 1What is the first thing you do when you wake up?
- 2What is your order at the place we go most often?
- 3What song have you played most this year?
- 4What is your favourite thing about where we live?
- 5What is your least favourite thing about where we live?
- 6What did you have for lunch today, honestly?
- 7What is the last thing you bought for yourself?
- 8What is your ideal temperature for a room?
- 9What do you always forget to pack?
- 10What is the last film you loved?
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- 11What is your most-used app?
- 12What is a smell that puts you somewhere specific?
- 13What was your first job?
- 14Who was your first proper friend?
- 15What were you like at school?
- 16What is the worst haircut you have had?
- 17What is a talent you have that is completely useless?
- 18What is your best story from before we met?
- 19What is your worst holiday memory?
- 20What is your best holiday memory?
- 21What was your childhood bedroom like?
- 22What did your family do on Sundays?
- 23What is a family tradition you would keep?
- 24What is a family tradition you would quietly drop?
- 25Who did you look up to at fifteen?
- 26What did you want to be, and when did that change?
- 27What is the bravest thing you did before twenty-five?
- 28What is a risk you did not take and think about?
- 29What is the best decision you have ever made?
- 30What is the worst decision you have ever made?
- 31What are you better at than you were five years ago?
- 32What are you worse at?
- 33What do you like most about your work?
- 34What would you do instead, if money were solved?
- 35What is something you own that you would replace immediately if it broke?
- 36What is a small daily thing that reliably improves your day?
- 37What is a small daily thing that reliably ruins it?
- 38What do you do when you cannot sleep?
- 39What do you do when you are angry and alone?
- 40How do you know when you are stressed before anyone else notices?
- 41What is your first memory of me?
- 42What did you think of me on the first day?
- 43When did that change?
- 44What is the first thing you told a friend about me?
- 45What did your friends say back?
- 46When did you first think this might be serious?
- 47What is your favourite ordinary day we have had?
- 48What is a moment with me you replay?
- 49What is something I do that you find genuinely attractive?
- 50What is something I do that you find funny and have never said?
- 51What do I do that annoys you and you have let go?
- 52What do I do that annoys you and you have not let go?
- 53What is something you have never told me about our early days?
- 54When have you been proudest of me?
- 55When have you been most worried about me?
- 56What do you think I am best at?
- 57What do you think I am hardest on myself about?
- 58What do you think I need more of?
- 59What do you think I need less of?
- 60What have you learned from me?
- 61What have you had to unlearn since we met?
- 62What is the hardest conversation we have had?
- 63What is a conversation we have avoided?
- 64What do you wish I asked you about more?
- 65What do you wish I asked you about less?
- 66How do you want to be treated when you are upset?
- 67How do you want to be treated when you are wrong?
- 68What does an apology need to include to actually work on you?
- 69What is your part in the argument we keep repeating?
- 70What is my part in it?
- 71What is something you have forgiven me for?
- 72What is something you are still working on forgiving?
- 73What is a boundary you need that you have never stated plainly?
- 74What do you do when you feel distant from me?
- 75What would you like me to do when that happens?
- 76When do you feel most loved by me?
- 77When do you feel least seen by me?
- 78What are you afraid of losing?
- 79What are you afraid I will find out?
- 80What is the thing you are least proud of?
- 81What do you think you are still carrying from before we met?
- 82What do you think I am still carrying?
- 83What is something you want that you have never said out loud?
- 84What would you regret not doing?
- 85What do you want the next five years to look like, specifically?
- 86What do you want them to feel like?
- 87What is the thing about our future that worries you most?
- 88What is the thing you are most looking forward to?
- 89How do you want us to handle it when things get hard?
- 90What would make you say this year was a good one?
- 91What do you want to have stopped doing by then?
- 92What do you want to have started?
- 93What do you hope our home feels like in ten years?
- 94What do you want to be true about us when we are old?
- 95What do you want said about you at the end?
- 96What would you want me to do if you were gone?
- 97What is the one thing you would not want to change about us?
- 98What is the one thing you would change tomorrow if you could?
- 99What is something you have realised while answering these?
- 100What is a question you wish had been on this list?
- 101Ask it now.
Tap the game above to play through all prompts.
How to play The 100 Question Game for Couples
- Decide your pace first: ten a night, twenty-five a sitting, or all hundred on one long journey.
- Both of you answer every question. Whoever asks, answers second.
- Never skip forward for a better question — the order is the point.
- Mark where you stopped so you can pick it up next time.
- When one question turns into a real conversation, that is a good night. Stop there.
Why couples love this game
Length is the mechanic. Ten questions is a nice evening; a hundred questions is a sustained stretch of paying attention to one person, and the second half only works because the first half happened. Couples who play it in sittings report the same thing — the questions they thought were throwaway at number twelve are the ones that come back up at number eighty.
Tips to make it more fun
- Do not do all hundred in one go the first time. Save the last twenty for a night you will remember.
- Write down three answers that surprise you and revisit them in a year.
- Long drives, trains and flights are the natural home for this deck.
- If your partner gives a short answer to a big question, wait rather than moving on.
- It also works as an anniversary tradition — same hundred questions, a year apart, different answers.
Frequently asked questions
What is the 100 question game for couples?
It is a hundred questions answered in order, usually across several sittings, going from light to serious. The order is what makes it work: the early questions build the habit of answering properly, so the later ones land. All 100 are listed on this page.
How long does the 100 question game take?
About two to three hours if you do it in one go, but most couples split it — ten questions an evening across a couple of weeks, or twenty-five at a time on long journeys.
Should we skip questions we do not like?
Pass rather than skip, and say why you are passing. The refusal is usually more informative than the answer would have been. Just do not jump ahead to find a better question — the sequence is doing real work.
Can we play the 100 question game long distance?
Yes. It is one of the best long distance games there is, because a fixed list gives a video call a shape. Ten questions per call is a good rhythm.
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