Get to Know Your Partner
15 questions for a relationship that is still new enough to be surprising.
15 questions · Free
How do you behave when you are wrong about something?
One phone between the two of you — the card says whose turn it is.
About Get to Know Your Partner
Games to get to know your partner have to sit somewhere between small talk and interrogation. These 15 questions are for the stage where you have covered the obvious things and want to know how the other person actually works — how they handle being wrong, what they need when they are struggling, what they are like with money.
Sample questions to get you started
- 1How do you behave when you are wrong about something?
- 2What do you need when you are having a bad week?
- 3How do you handle money — carefully, loosely, or not at all?
- 4What does a good friendship look like to you?
- 5How do you feel about your family, honestly?
- 6What do you do when you are angry with someone?
- 7How much time alone do you need to feel normal?
- 8What did your last relationship teach you?
- 9What are you like when you are stressed?
- 10How do you make big decisions?
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- 11What do you expect from a partner that you would not say out loud?
- 12What is something you are working on about yourself?
- 13What do you find hard to talk about?
- 14How do you know when you trust someone?
- 15What would make you end a relationship?
Tap the game above to play through all prompts.
How to play Get to Know Your Partner
- Answer with an example rather than a description of yourself.
- Ask "when was the last time?" — it turns a self-description into a story.
- Stop after ten if you are still enjoying it — leave some for next time.
Why couples love this game
New couples learn preferences quickly and patterns slowly. Preferences are easy to observe; patterns take months unless you ask directly. Asking directly is what this deck is for.
Tips to make it more fun
- Examples beat adjectives. "I go quiet" is more useful than "I'm sensitive".
- Go first when you ask. It sets the level of honesty.
- Do not treat any answer as a verdict — people describe themselves badly.
- Come back to this deck in six months and compare.
Frequently asked questions
What games help you get to know your partner?
Ones that ask about patterns rather than preferences. You will work out their coffee order in a week; how they behave when they are wrong takes months unless you ask.
Is it too early to ask these questions?
If you are already in a relationship, no. These are not first-date questions, but they are appropriate well before anyone is discussing moving in together.
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