Games to Get Closer
15 prompts that escalate deliberately, because closeness does.
15 questions · Free
What was the best part of your day?
One phone between the two of you — the card says whose turn it is.
About Games to Get Closer
Games for couples to get closer only work if they escalate. These 15 prompts start with something you could answer in a lift and finish somewhere you would only go with one person, and the sequence is what makes the last five possible.
Sample questions to get you started
- 1What was the best part of your day?
- 2What is something small that made you happy this week?
- 3What are you looking forward to?
- 4What has been on your mind lately?
- 5What is something you are proud of that nobody noticed?
- 6What do you find hardest at the moment?
- 7When did you last feel really understood?
- 8What is something you have never told me about your childhood?
- 9What do you worry about that you do not mention?
- 10What do you think I do not know about you?
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- 11What do you need from me that you have not asked for?
- 12When have you felt closest to me?
- 13What are you most afraid of losing?
- 14What is something you have wanted to say for a long time?
- 15Say it now.
Tap the game above to play through all prompts.
How to play Games to Get Closer
- Play in order. Do not skip ahead.
- Both answer every prompt, and whoever asks answers second.
- Never interrupt an answer.
- Five prompts is a good evening.
Why couples love this game
Closeness is built by reciprocal disclosure that escalates in small steps — you go slightly further, so your partner does, and neither of you is ever the only one exposed. Skipping to the end does not work, which is why the order here is fixed.
Tips to make it more fun
- Do not shuffle this deck. The order is doing the work.
- Going first sets how honest the second answer will be.
- Silence after an answer is fine. Leave it.
- Five a night across three evenings beats all fifteen at once.
Frequently asked questions
How do couples get closer?
Through reciprocal disclosure that escalates in small steps. You go slightly further, so your partner does, and neither is ever the only one exposed — which is why the order of these prompts matters more than any individual one.
Can we skip to the interesting questions?
You can, and it will not work. The last five only land because the first ten happened.
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